Thursday, May 22, 2008

He's Chill, She's on the Pill.

I just started Reading Jessica Valenti's new book, "He's A Stud, She's A Slut and 49 Other Double Standards Every Woman Should Know." I'm a fan of Valenti and the blog, Feministing, where she is co-founder and blogger.

I can't say that I am far into the book, easy to read as it is - because I just got it an hour ago. However, simply opening up to chapter 2 - I'm ready to blog my praises!

Chapter 2 is titled "He's Chill, She's on the Pill," and talks about the double standard that women face in preventing pregnancy and ensuring sexual health. Valenti describes the different measures she has taken to protect herself and then says,
"It's our responsibility to have safe sex: birth control pills, diaphragms,
spermicides - shit, we even has to convince men to wear condoms! I say it's

How true! Have you ever felt this way? Does it even dawn on women that they are bearing the brunt, if not all, of this responsibility? Valenti, as a forward thinking feminist, provides solutions to these double standards. For chapter 2, this is what she proposes,
"...make sure our partner is taking on as much responsibility as you are.
Use condoms. Split the costs of all your birth control - after all, he's
benefiting from it, too! At the end of the day, the birth control double
standard exists for one reason - sexism. The idea behind the reality of fewer BC
options for men is that sex and reproduction are all about women. We can't let
them be."
What do you think?

1 comment:

One Woman's Suffrage said...

Great entry! This is my first time to visit your blog and I will be coming back.

There is power in your voice. Use it!